Do you believe in those love advices?

Each one of us at some point of time in our life has read those love advice giving columns in the newspapers or has at least solved one of the point giving quizzes about your spouses. These are some common stuff you will find in every women or lifestyle magazine. Talking in journalistic terms it is few of those leisure items you see? People who love to solve crossword puzzle will do that, those who love to play Sudoku will solve that and if your love life is messed up, you are sure to turn pages to find yourself solving one of this columns or writing out questions so that an unknown agony aunt columnist could solve your query.

Well it isn’t your fault or anybody else’s who looks up for such columns and advices in the newspapers. If tomorrow I am caught up in a problem like the one described in those columns, then even I might seek advice from those agony aunts. However, sanity says otherwise.

Past few days I have been browsing through a leading national daily only to find its city supplement carrying such tips and advices each day. I don’t know how many of you practically try those written stuffs on your partners, but according to me it’s not really worth the try! An entire column full of those advices or tips of how to tackle your man or how to keep a check on your spouse sure makes a good read to pass the time but when it actually comes to the point where it concerns your spouses, I would suggest trust your instincts!

An instinct has an unbeatable power in itself, so before you open yourself up to such advices, learn to follow your instincts. The second best solution when in fall prey to such god forbidden problems is to talk it out. May be you could be brave enough to talk about the concerned problem straight forward with your spouse; but if you cannot well up the courage to talk to him then make efforts to talk to your close friends or relatives. Because seeking advice from an unknown columnist is just not helpful!

The writer who writes these columns may not be the person you imagine him to be, it just might be a mere renowned name or the advices that you receive from such columns might be given by a magnificent writer who himself is an amateur when it comes to relationships or he/ she might be even a big failure in that area. Possibilities of such columns being fake, if weighed, are many- the person writing such columns has never had any relationship ever or himself is suffering from a frustrating love life and so vents out the frustration by writing such columns or the column is written by a trainee/intern staff ? You never know, what it can be! When you are judgmental about your spouse’s loyalty towards you, you tend to switch to such solutions that have been given in these columns yet how far you believe these advices should be decided by you alone.

Talking from the experience I was reading a book of a famous Indian author that spelled her relationship with her spouse. The writing was penetrative, convincing, distinct and divinely rich must appreciate the gifted talent the author has got. But then again when it came down to standing the test of being a loyal partner, she proved me wrong. All that I was imagining her to be turned out to be mere fake words sugar coated only to make her book famous. The author was a socialite, page 3 celeb, if you know what I mean? Has dated dozens of men and has got married twice. So probably she has developed the expertise on relationships only through these few relationships she has had!

Having no hard feelings for any author or columnist, all that I wish to write is rather than being judgmental or suspicious about your partner’s loyalty and then following the advices given in such columns, its best to trust your instincts! Or to simple do what you do best when your spouse is upset, make up the mood, dim the light, strike the melody and melt in his arms.